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Dance by Madeline Fischer
When I was growing up a bride's dance was held during
the "Community dance". At that time the
bride's and groom's families always put on a dance
for the community a week or so after the wedding.
It was an open dance... everyone and anyone from miles
around were welcome.
Usually close to lunch time (Lunch was always served
part way through the evening with everyone bringing
sandwiches or cake.) the bride dance was held......
Someone started it by taking donation from some one
and putting it into a hat. As each man tossed in a
donation he earned a round of the dance floor with
the bride. A few times the women (usually the man's
wife would take a round with the groom) The money
was presented to the couple just before the dance
ended. It served as the community gift and welcome
to the couple..... (I didn't grow up in a German community.
I think it may be a Canadian tradition.... especially
western Canada....... as a social gathering event)
We have been at a couple of wedding dances held for
the invited guests at a wedding reception. My opinion
of that being done there is it looks like a money
grab as all of the invited guests would have brought
a gift. Sounds kind of cheap.... expecting guests
to pay for the wedding dance. As a suggestion for
your son as for a tradition adaptation.. use the idea
as a way to say thanks for coming by offering (free)
the "round of the floor" dance as the wedding
cake is served..... Kids just love that opportunity
to take part too. (Guests get their cake from the
bridal party and then line up to dance. Those who
chose not to take the dance are given a hug or handshake
instead when their turn comes.
Hope this helps......... Madeline
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