Ten Commandments of Reunion Etiquette
Submitted by Sheila Axtman Kokkeler
Family Reunion by Jennnifer Crichton with contributions
from Judith Martin/Miss Manners to help compile the Commandments.
- Thou shalt not forget thine ordinary manners nor thy common
civility, just because thou art amongst thy brothers and sisters.
- Thou shalt tolerate the tiresome relative (at least for a little
- Thou shalt not play footsie with a distant cousin or thy cousin's
- Sniping and carping about a reunion's lack of organization is
- Thou shalt orchestrate spontaneous praise unto the reunion organizer.
- Thou shalt not talk about everything under the sun. Agree to
disagree, and steer clear of controversial topics.
- Parents shall not use intimate details of their kids' lives
as conversational fodder. (Boasts of children's accomplishments
are acceptable, but parents shall be discreet in their phrasing
- Thou shalt not reveal devastating family secrets about thyself
or others unless thou hast arranged therapeutic support systems.
- Thou shalt not publicly criticize the bad manners or poor behavior
of any child not thine own.
- Thou shalt flatter thy kinfolk--falsely or not. All nieces tap
dance divinely, all babies are beautiful, and all aunts look as
wonderful as ever.
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